BY Jennifer Holdway

The reality of the Coronavirus has set in and many couples are faced with the logistical challenges of postponing and in some cases completely rearranging their wedding. Couples getting married later in the year are trying to decide if they should postpone their wedding as well. How long should they wait before they bite the bullet and pick a new date? Should everyone just wait until 2021 to get married or is it safe to plan your wedding in December?

What you all need to realise is that you are not alone. Whilst not everyone is facing the exact same challenges as you, we are all facing uncertain times. The only difference is that we are all handling the awful COVID-19 in our own ways, but that does not mean you have to do it alone. I have a wonderful friend who, despite the fact we both have men who love us very much, checks I am alright every day and I do the same for her. Whilst the loves of our lives are wonderful, it is good to have a friend to talk to whilst we are at home alone with our children and our other halves are at work. With that in mind I highly recommend leaning on those around you as you work your way around the social and practical implications of rearranging or starting to plan your wedding.

To help navigate the minefield and plan your wedding so you can get married when the glorious time finally comes, I have listed answers to some of the more frequently asked questions.

Should I Cancel My Wedding?

Following initial recommendations from the CDC Advisories, industry professionals recommended postponing weddings and events between March and May. It became compulsory when the UK Government announced a three-week lockdown, which is likely to be extended.

I recommend postponing or rescheduling your wedding rather than cancelling it. Industry professionals do their job because they want to make couples dreams come true, not shatter them. This way they may agree to transfer your deposit.

Couples are generally changing March and May weddings, to dates between September and November, or the same date in 2021 if possible. That means couples are facing a lot of competition.

Whilst I am sure the end of the year will be extremely busy, we are yet to know when we will be able to celebrate weddings in the same fashion previously enjoyed. I do not foresee weddings occurring before mid-June. With that in mind I strongly urge you to keep in touch with your suppliers. Monitor Government guidelines if you are getting married between June and August and keep these points in mind:

  • How many people will be in attendance? Larger celebrations increase the risk of spreading COVID-19.
  • How many vulnerable guests will be in attendance? There is a greater risk of serious illness should vulnerable people contract COVID-19.
  • How much space will there be? COVID-19 is spread from person to person (within 2 metres), so you need to consider the room size and how many people will fill it.
  • How many cases have there been in your local community and your guests communities? If there have been a lot of cases, you are at greater risk of spreading the virus, so monitor case numbers.
  • Can you reduce your guest numbers? Consider getting married with less guests and hold a larger celebration once the risk has gone.

What To Consider When Deciding To Postpone Your Wedding

Think about your planning timeline in relation to your proposed new wedding date”

When you start the daunting task of postponing your wedding, you need to think about your planning timeline in relation to your proposed new wedding date. Prices could potentially increase, site inspections will be required, you will need to select design and attend meetings with your suppliers, so is there enough time to organise the wedding you have been dreaming of? Will your selected date require you to have a contingency plan in place?

If you like to take your time planning things, this is not the time to plan your wedding. There is no time to procrastinate if you want to get married this year. Review your timeline and stay on top of your checklist, as other couples are rearranging their weddings and you do not want to miss out because you spent too much time procrastinating.

If you are considering postponing your wedding you need to speak to your venue and see which dates are available and then speak your suppliers to see which of those available dates they can do. Some suppliers may not be able to personally do your wedding, but may have a colleague available.  Speak to your important guests and see which dates they are able to attend.

Speak to all suppliers and see if they will hold the dates for a few days without requiring a deposit That way you can discuss your options and make sure all suppliers are available prior to paying any money.

How Long Should I Postpone My Wedding For?

Long engagements are popular, with many couples electing to get married in 2020. This means late summer and autumn is a busy time of year for weddings. That being said, if you have had to postpone your wedding, consider the end of this year rather, than leaving it too long to rearrange your wedding, as 2021 is already looking to be a busy year.

The important thing is you are marrying the love of your life, so be flexible with your wedding date, as the two of you are the most important thing, not the date. Maybe a weekday wedding would be a good idea if it means you get the venue you have been dreaming of.

I Don’t Have A Wedding Planner

“Wedding planners aren’t there for the good times. We are there to make the times good.”

Wedding Planners are there to take the stress out of planning your wedding. We aren’t just there for the good times. We are there to make the times good.

Wedding planners are the people ready to fight your corner when things go badly, like they are at the moment thanks to the coronavirus, and that is why we are so important. If you don’t currently have a wedding planner, it is not too late to get one. They can provide support and help you rearrange or postpone your wedding in whatever capacity you require.

Things are different if you do not have a wedding planner and can make decisions more difficult. With that in mind, I suggest you select the supplier you have the best relationship with or feel has the best management skills and ask them their opinion. Their perspective may be completely different to yours, as they are looking at the situation from a professional perspective and not an emotional one. They can give you advice and recommend how to move forward so you can plan your wedding for another date. Work around your venue and supplier you have selected and it will help to alleviate a lot of the stress you have been experiencing.

How To Move Forward

The most important thing to remember is that you love each other and will spend the rest of your lives together. There is no rush. Like the government keeps stressing. The most important thing is to stay healthy, so stay inside, relax, enjoy spending time together and look forward to your future together. Stay calm and breath. Weddings can be stressful at the best of times, so try to take a step back for a moment. Once you have you can plan your wedding. Contracts are there for a reason, so don’t get too upset if the supplier won’t agree to cancel your booking and give you a full refund. Deposits are paid to start working for you, so be realistic about what can be achieved.

Use your time at home to look after yourself and plan your wedding. Discuss your timelines, review your existing plans and how you can move everything to another date. If you are going to get married at a different time of year your colour pallet will possibly need to be changed, as will your flowers, so look at everything and review your options.

Schedule calls with suppliers. Technology is wonderful, so why not do video calls so you can talk to supplier’s face to face. They are there to help you and will do whatever they can to try and make your wedding into the dream you had planned.

You are probably stressed and upset right now, so if you want to discuss anything or want someone to help you plan your wedding please don’t hesitate to contact me.